Wednesday, July 20, 2011
I did it and you should too. We all turned out "just fine".
I get SO sick of hearing this excuse for why someone hasn't modernized their ways or why they expect you to follow them down their path.
I will tell you now, my son seems perfectly fine and healthy and extremely bright and very compassionate. However, I won't raise the next kid in the exact way I raised my son. Why, you ask? Well, for one, my next kid is not my first one. They are different, the same with every other kid on the planet. Therefore, that alone negates that from happening. Different people have different needs and wants and desires. Also, I have changed since having my son and so have the times. What once was thought to be safe might not be at all safe now. For instance, my son had a drop side crib. You know, the same kind outlawed now. My son never had ANY issue with them, but, someones son did.
My mom wasn't nursed, she also didn't get the benefit of actual formula either. She got some concoction of canned milk. My mom seems fine and healthy, but, ain't no way in hell am I feeding anyone's baby canned milk concoction. Again, my mom is "just fine", but, you wonder how she could have been. I know for a fact that some kids died because their parents fed them concoctions. My mom never had ANY issues with it, but, someones daughter did.
The other point I wanted to make is this, yes, you may have done (X,Y or Z) and turned out just fine for thousands of generations, but, that doesn't mean every other person on the planet can do it even once and everything work out so perfect. Sure, you can suggest your way, but, don't get so caught up in "your way" that you can't see the new research against it or the warnings against it. Just because no one in your family has been hurt by it, doesn't mean that it can never happen to any other family. By all means, do the research yourself if someone is questioning your ways. Decide if the risk is something you are willing to continue to take.
BTW, I hear this mentioned a lot when I talk against "Babywise", CIO, cereal in a bottle, rearfacing past 12 months, trying to avoid inductions or c-sections, trying to make it to at least 40 weeks, sleep training, co-sleeping and many, many other things. It is ridiculous how defensive people get. No need to shoot the messenger for spreading the info. Just do your research and decide for your family instead of attempting to decide for mine.
Keep in mind...one person can huff paint for YEARS and be "just fine", but, a LOT of people can huff paint ONCE and fall over dead instantly.
Posted by Leslie LeCompte at 10:35 AM