First things first if you paid attention to yesterdays post and followed every tip in it, you would know about charting and how your body works already. If not, let's get down to business shall we?
THE most important step in TTC: CHARTING!!!!! I suggest buying the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" if you prefer to not buy a book, try their online site: "tcoyf", or try online tools for charting on sites like, "Fertility Flower", "The Birthing Site" or "Just Mommies".
This will all help you to know not only the best time for doing the BD(baby dance), but, how to recognize when ovulation is about to occur, when it has passed or when it doesn't happen at all. Keeping track of everything from menstrual cycle beginning, end, length, frequency, timing of sex, cervix position, basal temp and more can help eliminate guess work for you and the doctor and can signal potential problems along the way.
We'll start with the basics:
The first day of your period (Not spotting, but, the first day you bleed red blood) is Day 1 of your cycle. You will start counting from there. Mark this on the chart and mark every day, plus the flow on the chart (heavy, medium, light).
Mark the consistency of your cervical fluid (Dry, Sticky, Creamy, Wet, Slippery/egg white)
Mark cervix position and how it feels(low/closed, mid/partial, high/open)
What is your basal temp(before you move, walk, talk, drink or get out of bed, take your temp at the exact same time in the exact same location(mouth, vaginal, rectal) and do this consistently to find your basal temp pattern) Your temp should stay pretty consistent until just before and during ovulation. Your temp should dip slightly followed by a rise just before ovulation occurs and continuing until ovulation is over and your period is about to start(unless you are pregnant, it should stay elevated).
You should note when sex occurs.
All of this combined can help you to better understand your body and when the best time is to conceive.
Another important thing to remember is to relax and not get too caught up in the process and make it clinical. Know that it can take months to years to become pregnant even if you are following everything. Don't give up or stress out.
I hear tell that Mucinex is helpful in causing a women's body to create more EWCM(egg white cervical mucus) which is THE most fertile cervical fluid.
Do NOT use any lubricants or saliva in the vaginal area when TTC, those are both caustic environments to sperm. You CAN use "Pre-Seed" or actual egg white (although that grosses me out to even type that.)
Like I also said in the last post, already be taking prenatal vitamins(make sure they contain at least 400mcg Folic Acid or more) and live as though you are already pregnant. No smoking, alcohol, drugs or foods that aren't allowed. Get fit or be trying if you are overweight, start eating healthier.
Having regular sex is the best way to get pregnant right away. Couples often try to time everything perfectly for ovulation but do not have sex when they think they are not ovulating. It is true that sex that is not within the time of ovulation will not result in pregnancy. However, because women do not always ovulate when they think they will, having sex three times a week will help a woman to cover her bases, so to speak, and not miss an opportunity to get .
There are also potential ways to up your chances of having a certain sex baby. Now, it doesn't up it a lot and isn't guaranteed, but, it also doesn't hurt to try. In fact, this method when performed correctly has a 75% success rate. LOL Intercourse -Timed Gender Selection – In the 1970s, two doctors released two different books offering directions on how to conceive a baby with the gender of your choice. In 1971, Dr. Landrum Shettles and David Rorvik wrote “How to Choose the Sex of Your Baby,” and revealed that sperm with male (Y) chromosomes move faster than sperm with X (female) chromosomes but do not live as long.
To conceive a boy, have intercourse on the day of ovulation or one day after. To conceive a girl, have sex two to four days prior to ovulation.
Use any number of methods, such as:
- tracking your natural fertility signs such as: basal body temperature, your cervical mucus, and your cervical position
- using an ovulation predictor kit
- using an ovulation tracker/calculator
Shettles offers other tips for tipping the scales when it comes to conceiving a baby boy, too.
- Have sex in a position that encourages deep penetration to deposit the weaker “boy” sperm closer to the cervix
- When a woman orgasms, it changes the pH level in the vagina to be more alkaline, an environment where the Y-chromosome sperm thrive
- Create an alkaline or acidic environment for the sperm by douching with a special solution prior to intercourse
- The prospective father-to-be should drink coffee prior to intercourse
It is also said that man on top positions, keeping hips elevated and remaining in a lying down position for 30 mins or more after sex will also increase your chances of conceiving.
I think that about covers it. Have fun baby making. :)